29 07 2011

FL has been plum full of storm clouds for, oh I don’t know at least three weeks! However, there was one semi-sunny day last weekend where we made it to the beach. But other than that it’s been consistently raining. Which means there are thunderstorms, green grass everywhere, and lots of days-in. Except for when we have to go to class, and march in the rain. That is oh so very fun. Showing up drenched to sit in a cold bldg for six hours. Ah well, that’s the Navy for you. Gotta take the good with the bad. However FL needs to straighten itself out before my friends arrive. We will not accept any days but the sunny ones. We need some blistering hot weather (hold the humidity) and sunshine up to our elbows.

I suppose the weather kind of matches my mood lately. It’s been a week and a half since my break-up with the Mista. And I’m ready to go public with it. Well, not really ready to talk about it…but long story short, I was the one who ended it, and we have since gone separate ways. I think I have a commitment issue, I don’t know what it is really. But after 8 months I still didn’t see a future with marriage, family, kids, the whole what-you-see-in-movies thing so it was time to move on. No one wants a broken heart, and no one wants to break one. But the best thing for both of us was to split up. Even if he doesn’t see it now, he will eventually. And maybe we can be friends someday. (I think it’s compulsory to say that at a break-up, but I mean it this time.

Anyway, since the fateful conversation, I have since received a little email in my Junk Box. (Why do people check their Junk email??) It was from a little website known as I don’t know if you have heard of it. They only have commercials on TV every hour. Anyhow, I proceed to open it and look it over and wonder if the universe is trying to tell me something. That I made the right decision? That it’s time to move on? I am not ready to move on, and I’m not, definitely not looking for a man right now or anytime soon. Regardless, I decided to investigate.

There are so many dating websites out there, but the two that come to mind are eharmony and I proceeded to via a handy link enclosed in the email. Here it asked me to fill out several surveys, which I did to quench my interest hunger. There were all sorts of questions. I mean, crazy questions. Do you sleep with your socks on? Do you like to travel? What’s your favorite city? There were of course the typical ‘where do you work’ and ‘likes and dislikes in a mate’ questions. But this was a wide array of personality questions, as the commercials allude to. So I followed through and stuck with the questions until the very end. Then it came time for a credit card. Whoa whoa Nelly. I didn’t say I wanted to actually do this thing. It came time for the do or die moment, and I couldn’t go through with it. But the more I got to thinking about it, the more I realized something…

When you meet someone randomly, in movies it’s called a meet-cute I think, it is 100% based on looks. If you are in a coffee shop and see a handsome guy from across the room and he comes over to have a little chat, he came over there to talk to you based on your appearance only. If you are a member of a dating website, and are looking to meet a match on there, the points of interest are based purely on your personality (and that pic you posed of yourself that has just the right angle). Well, who the website thinks you will have the most in common with. And although the world leads us to believe that opposites attract, it’s actually okay to date someone that you have a common interest with. Like the love of travel, or similar jobs, or maybe the fact you are both divorced with kids.

Online dating has gotten a bad rap over the years, I’m not sure why, or what exactly is so wrong about meeting someone online, getting to know them via personality matches, likes/dislikes, etc and then meeting in person to see if the chemistry is there. Makes a lot of sense if you ask me. Plus, I happen to know three very happy couples that did exactly this, and two of them are now happily married.

So, maybe someday this will be for me….but not quite yet. But after some research, the online dating thing gets my seal of approval, for what it means.




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